BDSM

BDSM is a rich and diverse universe where bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism and masochism converge within a framework of trust, communication and consent. Far more than a simple sexual practice, it is an exploration of sensations, roles and boundaries, where each person can discover new dimensions of pleasure and intimacy. At 1969, explore a complete selection for all levels:

Bondage & restraint: ropes, shibari, handcuffs, harnesses
Impact play: floggers, whips, riding crops, paddles
Intense stimulation: nipple clamps, plugs, BDSM sex toys
Sensory deprivation: masks, gags, hoods
Outfits & adornments: body harnesses, latex, body jewellery

Whether you are looking for a complete BDSM kit to get started or specific accessories to enrich your practices, discover the leading names in the world of BDSM: ROUGE, Liebe Seele, Njoy, 1969 and Bijoux Indiscrets.

What is BDSM? Understanding the fundamentals

The acronym BDSM brings together three complementary dimensions that form a world of intimate exploration:

Bondage & Discipline (BD) : the art of physical and mental restraint through ropes, handcuffs, bonds, harnesses and the establishment of consensual rules
Domination & Submission (DS) : consensual power play between partners, where one leads and the other surrenders
Sadomasochism (SM) : the exploration of pleasure through intense sensations, whether given or received

These practices rest on two fundamental philosophies:

SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual) : an approach prioritising physical and emotional safety, ideal for beginners
RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) : a conscious acknowledgement of risks in more advanced practices

To deepen your understanding of these concepts and discover how to begin safely, consult our complete guide to BDSM.

Every BDSM session calls for prior negotiations, the establishment of clear boundaries and the use of safewords (often following the red/orange/green). Theaftercare (post-session care) is essential for supporting the emotional return and deepening intimacy. At 1969, we believe that BDSM is accessible to everyone, whatever your level of experience.

Bondage & restraint: the art of restriction

The bondage is one of the most popular and accessible BDSM practices. It consists of restricting a partner's movements, creating a play of vulnerability, trust and surrender.

Ropes & shibari

The shibari is the Japanese art of rope bondage. This practice transforms restraint into a sensual choreography. Our bondage ropes in cotton or jute are specially designed for this art: gentle on the skin, resilient and easy to handle. Explore our complete collection of ropes and shibari.

Handcuffs & restraints

Perfect for begin, the handcuffs offer immediate restraint without any particular technique. Padded handcuffs for comfort, leather handcuffs for aesthetics, velcro handcuffs for safety: our selection of handcuffs and restraints meets every need.

Harnesses & restraint systems

The bondage harness elevate restraint to a form of bodily art. In leather, nylon or metal chains, they sculpt the body while limiting movement. Explore our restraint harness for an aesthetic and effective immobilisation.

Impact play: exploring sensations

The impact play constitute the sadomasochistic dimension of BDSM. They allow a broad spectrum of sensations to be explored, always within a consensual and safe framework.

Martinets & floggers

The flogger (or flogger) is made up of multiple supple strands creating a diffuse, enveloping sensation. Perfect for beginners, it allows intensity to be gradually increased. Our floggers in leather or suede offer varied sensations, from tickling to stinging.

Whips & crops

The whip and the crop allow for more precise and intense impact. Reserved for practitioners who have developed their technique, they require mastery and communication. Our collection offers short crops for control and long whips for reach.

Paddles & spankers

The BDSM paddle delivers a firm impact creating a sensation of progressive warmth. Wood or leather: each material produces a unique sensation. The paddles ROUGE combine refined design with formidable efficacy.

Tip : begin by testing the intensity of the accessory on yourself before using it on your partner. Favour fleshy areas (buttocks, thighs) and avoid sensitive zones. Discover all ourimpact play.

Intense stimulation: clamps, plugs and BDSM sex toys

Nipple clamps

The nipple clamps create a pressure that heightens sensitivity. The sensation peaks upon removal, producing a delicious rush of blood. Adjustable, decorative, vibrating or weighted clamps: our range adapts to every level. The Bijoux Indiscrets transform these accessories into true body jewels.

Plugs & dilators

The anal plugs and dilators or urethras hold a central place in BDSM, particularly in dominance play. Our collection Njoy in medical-grade stainless steel offers unparalleled weight, glide and durability. Jewelled plugs add an aesthetic dimension to submission.

Cockrings & male accessories

The BDSM cockrings are distinguished by their restrictive design and their use in control play.

Sensory deprivation: surrender and amplification

The sensory deprivation amplifies certain senses by eliminating others. This practice heightens vulnerability, trust and the intensity of sensations.

Masks & blindfolds

Simply removing sight transforms the sensory experience. A blindfold gentle serves as the ideal gateway into sensory deprivation. Our masks range from simple satin blindfolds to full leather hoods.

Gags

The gags add a dimension of control by limiting speech. Important : their use requires establishing a non-verbal safeword system (gesture, object to release, sound code). Ball gags, bit gags, ring gags: each model offers a different experience.

Outfits & adornments: the aesthetic of submission

Body harnesses

The body harnesses transform the body into a work of art. These structures in leather, chains or ropes trace geometric patterns while sometimes serving as attachment points. Our selection ROUGE and 1969 offers refined designs with carefully crafted finishes.

Latex, leather & vinyl

The fetish outfits in latex, leather or vinyl form the uniforms of BDSM. These second-skin materials amplify tactile sensations and create a physical and mental transformation. Discover our latex outfits, leather outfits and vinyl outfits.

Collars, leads & submission jewellery

The submission collar symbolises commitment within a D/s relationship. Worn continuously or during sessions, it embodies the bond between dominant and submissive. Our collars range from discreet to explicit. The leads allow the submissive partner to be guided physically. The body jewellery (chains, clips, ornaments) add a decorative touch. The collection Bijoux Indiscrets excels in this art of BDSM adornment.

How to begin with BDSM?

Informing yourself and communicating

Learn about techniques, risks and best practices. Speak openly with your partner(s) about your desires, fantasies, hard limits (never to be crossed) and soft limits (to be explored, perhaps).

Starting with the basics

Choose gentle accessories:

A blindfold in satin for sensory deprivation
Some padded handcuffs for bondage
A light flogger for impact play

Our beginner BDSM kits bring together these essentials in themed gift sets.

Establishing safety rules

Define a safeword clear (red/orange/green system recommended)
Keep safety scissors within reach
Prepare a aftercare kit (water, a soft blanket, chocolate, cream)
Never leave a bound or gagged person unattended

Practising aftercare

Theaftercare is essential to BDSM. After an intense scene: gently remove accessories, offer physical comfort, hydrate, and talk through the experience together. This phase deepens intimacy and addresses any emotional "drops".

BDSM reference brands at 1969

ROUGE embodies contemporary BDSM: refined design, noble materials (leather, steel), impeccable finishes. Every piece is crafted to last and elevate your sessions.

Liebe Seele celebrates the artistic and emotional dimension of BDSM. Shibari ropes, delicate floggers, ornate accessories: the brand favours sensuality over aggression.

Njoy, specialist in medical-grade stainless steel, crafts plugs and dildos of unmatched quality. The weight, temperature and perfect glide create truly unique sensations.

Our 1969 own brand offers accessories with an optimal quality-to-price ratio, without compromising on safety. Perfect for beginners or to complete your collection.

Bijoux Indiscrets transforms BDSM accessories into true adornments. Golden nipple clamps, body chains, ornate plugs: the Barcelona brand elevates BDSM aesthetics to new heights.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Thecare regular care of your BDSM accessories ensures their longevity and your hygiene. Here are our recommendations according to the materials :

Stainless steel (handcuffs, nipple clamps, plugs):

Cleaning : warm soapy water or specialist cleaner sex toys
Sterilisation possible : boiling water for 3–5 minutes
Drying : wipe immediately to avoid water marks
Storage : in a dry place, ideally in its original pouch

Silicone (plugs, dildos, soft accessories):

Cleaning : specialist cleaner sex toys or mild unscented soap
Rinsing : lukewarm water, generously
Drying : in open air or with a clean, lint-free cloth
Important : never use any silicone lubricant on silicone (risk of deterioration)

Leather (handcuffs, collars, crops, whips):

Cleaning : slightly damp cloth
Care : nourish regularly with a balm or cream for leather (every 2–3 months)
Drying : in open air, never near a heat source
Storage : in a dry, well-ventilated place to prevent mould

Ropes (shibari, bondage):

Cotton/hemp : hand wash in cold water, dry flat
Jute : dry cleaning only, regular airing

General advice: always clean your accessories before first use and after each scene. This is part of the ritual and the respect of your body and that of your partner.

It all depends on the intensity refined: riding crop for a impact precise, paddle for firm spanking sensation, flogger for a diffuse effect, whip for the experienced. If you're just beginning, start with a riding crop or a paddle.

The shibari is a form of Japanese art that places emphasis on aesthetic, the symmetry and emotional connection. bondage classic is often more functional, focused on restraint and physical sensation.

It's entirely possible to begin with a modest budget. Simple accessories such as a blindfold or handcuffs generally cost between 15 and 40 euros. You can then build your collection as you explore, guided by your desires and your own pace of discovery.

Practiced with respect for safety principles — consent, communication, and a safeword — BDSM is not dangerous. It is built on mutual trust and attentiveness. Like any intimate practice, it calls for care and consideration. Start gradually, choose accessories designed for beginners, and always remain attuned to your partner.

Communication is essential. Choose a calm moment, outside of intimacy, to bring up the subject. Talk about your desires, your curiosities, but also your boundaries. Suggest discovering it together, without pressure or expectations. You can also explore this collection together, to identify what attracts, intrigues or inspires you.

To begin gently and enrich your intimacy, favour simple and reassuring accessories that allow you to explore without unsettling your bearings. Thepadded leather handcuffs or satin ones are ideal for playing with control in a safe setting. Ablindfold heightens sensations by masking sight, while alight flogger or asensory feather offer surprising and varied caresses.

If you wish to go further into the symbolism, asubmission collar in a jewellery style can deepen intimacy and create a unique connection. For those who wish to explore impact sensations, apaddle or alight crop allow for progressive exploration. Finally,scene accessories such as a body harness or a fetish outfit bring an aesthetic and theatrical dimension that nourishes the couple's imagination.

A few recommended accessories for beginners:

Padded handcuffs : to play with control gently
Satin blindfold : to heighten sensations
Light flogger : to discover impact play progressively
Jewellery submission collar : to deepen the symbolism and connection

To use aBDSM sex toy safely, three points are essential:consent, boundaries and gradual progression. In BDSM, control is not limited to the gesture itself: it also passes through the choice of toy, the material, and the rhythm of use.

Key best practices:

clearly discuss boundaries with yourpartner,
choose a sex toy suited to the intended use (stimulation, penetration, restraint),
use alubricant that is compatible,
start gently and adjust according to reactions,
avoid introducing too many accessories at once from the very first time,
favourmaterials that are safe (e.g. silicone or steel) and a design conceived for the intended area.

These practices make the experience smoother, more comfortable, and deepen the intimacy within the relationship, whether you are exploring dominance, submission, or sensory control.

When starting out, the most important thing is to choose a BDSM sex toy simple, comfortable and suited to your experience. The goal is to discover the sensations and stimulation, then to progress gradually in your practice.

For a first purchase, 1969 recommends:

some clamps adjustable for progressive stimulation,
a plug or a probe with dimensions reasonable (size/weight), in stainless steel
a cockring for better hold and control,
A dildo in stainless steel for temperature play and the sensation of weight, such as those from the brand Njoy

1969 offers more than 600 references available, including handcuffs, clamps and lubricants. It works directly with renowned manufacturers to guarantee the quality of BDSM items. 1969 is considered a meeting point for connoisseurs and those curious about the BDSM scene, and offers BDSM sex toys crafted from high-quality materials such as leather, metal or silicone.